When a child dies

Sometimes life hurts. Today it is excrutiating. I’ve been through a terrible, terrifying week, holding vigil at the hospital as my brother lost his son to a dreadful illness. This is it. This is the pain I have been training for as I have learned to cope with reality without turning back to a fistful of medication. Now, in the midst of mourning, anger, and loss I will dig deep and remember my own advice. Get your sleep. (All night vigils for the former bipolar are a dangerous, slippery ...

A Happy Family Valentine

Today is Valentine’s Day. I stayed up late last night to decorate a surprise and woke early to put on a breakfast for my husband and children. The excited chatter at the table turned to singing – literally. My children spontaneously broke out in a happy lilting version of a children’s song that I taught them as babies. “As I have loved you… Love one another…” I laughed at nineteen-year-old James, and three sisters; Samantha, Melanie and Meagan, all singing ...

To Honor My Mother

What good can come of a suicide? None. Even so, I wrote this article in honor of my mother and all of the good we have tried to create in the wake of her terrible death. Did you know Debbie? She was a dedicated mother and a loving wife. She was the kind who sang her heart out in the kitchen, worked in group homes for lost and lonely teens, volunteered in schools, and every once in a while, started up a little ...

Save My Marriage!

Not everyone will cheer you on when you decide to move from medications to a normal healthy life. Sometimes our closest friends are the greatest skeptics. Fact is, if you have been diagnosed with bipolar, it is because you have done something that scared the living daylights out of your family. Whatever you did before is tough to forget. What you did makes them question your judgement now, especially if it was your idea to transition from medications to the ...

Why Parenting Hurts

The hardest part about parenting is when your kids become who you used to be and you discover that you are, in some awful way, just like your own parents. Parenting is about seeing the world all over again from the other side of the fence.  An old friend (I’ll call her Crystal)  called today to tell me that her daughter was breaking her heart. Crystal is making some tough choices, as a grown woman, that are impacting her daughter ...